Introduction Cybersex, also called computer sex, Internet sex, netsex, mudsex, TinySex and, colloquially, cybering, is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via computer network send each other sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience. It is a form of sexual role play in which the participants pretend they are having actual sex. In one form, this fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies.Cybersex sometimes includes real life masturbation.
The quality of a cybersex encounter typically depends upon the participants’ abilities to evoke a vivid, visceral mental picture in the minds of their partners. Imagination and suspension of disbelief are also critically important. Cybersex can occur either within the context of existing or intimate relationships, e. g. among lovers who are geographically separated, or among individuals who have no prior knowledge of one another and meet in virtual spaces or cyberspaces and may even remain anonymous to one another.
In some contexts cybersex is enhanced by the use of a webcam to transmit real-time video of the partners. Channels used to initiate cybersex are not necessarily exclusively devoted to that subject, and participants in any Internet chat may suddenly receive a message with any possible variation of the text “Wanna cyber? “, “Wanna cam? ” or a request for “C2C”/”C4C” (“cam to cam” and “cam for cam”, respectively). Cybersex is commonly performed in Internet chat rooms (such as IRC, talkers or web chats) and on instant messaging systems.It can also be performed using webcams, voice chat systems like Skype, or online games and/or virtual worlds like Second Life. The exact definition of cybersex—specifically, whether real-life masturbation must be taking place for the online sex act to count as cybersex—is up for debate. It is also fairly frequent in online role-playing games, such as MUDs and MMORPGs, though approval of this activity varies greatly from game to game. Some online social games like Red Light Center are dedicated to cybersex and other adult behaviors. These online games are often called AMMORPGs.
In other games of the wider MMORPG genre, it ranges from widely accepted to the point of game masters/moderators taking part, such as in Final Fantasy Online, to moderated based on player reports, as in World of Warcraft, to grounds for a suspension from play or a permanent banishment, as in EVE Online and Anarchy Online. Cybersex may also be accomplished through the use of avatars in a multiuser software environment. It is often called mudsex or netsex in MUDs.
In TinyMUD variants, particularly MUCKs, the term TinySex (TS) is very common.Though text-based cybersex has been in practice for decades, the increased popularity of webcams has raised the number of online partners using two-way video connections to “expose” themselves to each other online—giving the act of cybersex a more visual aspect. There are a number of popular, commercial webcam websites that allow people to openly masturbate on camera while others watch them. Using similar sites, couples can also perform on camera for the enjoyment of others. Cybersex differs from phone sex in that it offers a greater degree of anonymity and allows participants to meet partners more easily.A good deal of cybersex takes place between partners who have just met online.  Unlike phone sex, cybersex in chat rooms is rarely commercial. In online worlds like Second Life and via webcam-focused chat services, however, Internet sex workers engage in cybersex in exchange for both virtual and real-life currency.
Types of cybersex users While you might think of certain stereotypes associated with cybersex addiction, the reality is that cybersex addiction spans many demographic groups, including men and women, young and old.While more research is needed to identify groups more accurately, there are some specific types of cybersex user we know about. Cybersex users vary in how much they engage in internet sexual behavior, and in their reasons for doing so. As outlined in the book, “In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior” by Patrick Carnes et al, one way to categorize types of cybersex users is according to these five major groups. Group 1: Recreational Users — Appropriate This group of cybersex users are able to occasionally explore sex on the internet without problems.They might use cybersex to enhance their sexual experiences. They are able to enjoy intimate sexual relationships in the real world, and have a healthy attitude to sexuality.
Group 2: Recreational Users — Inappropriate This group of cybersex users can also access internet sex without compulsive use, but may use this material inappropriately. This could include showing sexual images to other people for amusement or shock value, causing unintentional embarrassment. Such users do not keep their activities secret, and may otherwise have a healthy attitude towards sexuality and relationships.Group 3: Problematic Users — Discovery Group This group have not had any past problems with online or other sexual behavior.
They may be using the internet as a way to explore sexuality in a way that normal life has not offered them. Examples of problematic users in the discovery group are people who compulsively visit adult dating sites in the hope of meeting a partner, while avoiding real life opportunities to meet people; or people who use the internet in an attempt to meet an underage partner for sex, despite no prior history of doing so.Group 4: Problematic Users — Predisposed Group This group includes people who may have a history of fantasizing about sexual acting out, but who have never done it until accessing internet based sexual material. They might have thought about going to strip clubs or seeing prostitutes for sex, but not taken any action to do so, perhaps for fear of recognition or other consequences. Their use may be regular but not excessive, although attention is taken away from real relationships, work life may suffer or infidelity occurs.Group 5: Problematic Users — Lifelong Sexually Compulsive Group People in this group are at the extreme end of the continuum of sexual problems.
Their sexual acting out occurs with or without access to the internet — the online world simply adds another avenue to explore sexually inappropriate material. These cybersex users may access pornography frequently, as part of an ongoing pattern of excessive sexual behavior. Although not all cybersex users have problematic use, all take the risk that their use may become problematic. One difficulty with the online orld of sex is that while users are detached from their surroundings, sexually aroused, and surfing the net, they may be exposed to images they would never seek out normally. This can lead to exploring illicit sexual material in a way that was never intended, sometimes with dire legal and relationship consequences.
Uses of cybersex Cybersex can be utilized to write co-written original fiction and fan fiction by role-playing in third person, in forums or communities usually known by the name of ‘A Shared Dream’. It can also be used to gain experience for solo writers who want to write more realistic sex scenes, by exchanging ideas.One approach to cybering is a simulation of “real” sex, when participants try to make the experience as close to real life as possible, with participants taking turns writing descriptive, sexually explicit passages. Alternatively, it can be considered a form of sexual role play that allows the participants to experience unusual sexual sensations and carry out sexual experiments they cannot try in reality. Amongst “serious” role players, cybering may occur as part of a larger plot–the characters involved may be lovers or spouses.In situations like this, the people typing often consider themselves separate entities from the “people” engaging in the sexual acts, much as the author of a novel often does not completely identify with his or her characters. Due to this difference, such role players typically prefer the term “erotic role play” rather than cybersex to describe their actions. In “real cybering” personas often remain in character throughout the entire life of the contact, to include evolving into phone sex, and meat space encounters while in character, as a form of improvisation, or, nearly, a performance art.
Often these personas develop complex past histories for their characters to make the fantasy/role play even more lifelike, thus the evolution of the term “real cybering”. Advantages Since cybersex can satisfy some sexual desires without the risk of a sexually transmitted disease (STD) or pregnancy, it is a physically safe way for young people (such as with teenagers) to experiment with sexual thoughts and emotions. Additionally, people with long-term ailments (including HIV) can engage in cybersex as a way to safely achieve sexual gratification without utting their partners at risk. Cybersex allows real-life partners who are physically separated to continue to be sexually intimate. In geographically separated relationships, it can function to sustain the sexual dimension of a relationship in which the partners see each other only infrequently face to face.
Also, it can allow partners to work out problems that they have in their sex life that they feel uncomfortable bringing up otherwise.It can enable participants to act out fantasies which they would not act out (or perhaps would not even be realistically possible) in real life through roleplaying due to physical or social limitations and potential for misunderstanding, such as extreme BDSM, incest, zoophilia or rape. It takes less effort and fewer resources on the Internet than in real life to connect to a person like oneself or with whom a more meaningful relationship is possible. Women and the web: cybersex activity and implicationsABSTRACT Women are often omitted from discussions of cybersex activity, yet women are overrepresented among those who are rated as cybersex-compulsive. Failure to consider females’ problems with their Internet sexual expression leaves this special population at risk and without helpful clinical resources. This article examines how women’s web use compares with men’s, why females are overlooked in their Internet behaviors, offers details of women’s on-line activity, and suggests implications for women themselves and for those who treat them.Women’s cybersex activities are contrasted with a model of healthy sexuality, which illustrates potential problems with females’ Internet sex behaviors.
Speci? c considerations are offered for clinicians who treat women who are caught in the web of on-line sex. Introduction Obviously, the advent and use of the Internet has profoundly affected women as well as men. Daily, both genders access the Internet in ever growing numbers and spend increasing amounts of time online. This information superhighway affords women easy access to a nearly incomprehensible array of topics.From business to baskets, from entertainment to energy, from politics to plastic surgery, from relationships to racy lingerie—myriad treatments of these subjects and thousands more appear on command after a few simple keystrokes.
Of all the possible topics, one surfaces as the focus of interest worldwide. Perhaps no longer surprising, sexuality is the most frequently searched subject and the most pro? table part of the Internet. Nearly 20% of Internet users have accessed an ‘adult’ site. Estimates vary about the ? nancial scale of the on-line adult industry.Some analysts report American consumers spent $220 million at fee-based adult sites in 2001, while others approximate $1 billion in revenues annually. One cybersex expert quotes a ? gure as high as $83 billion was spent on Internet sex last year, which is more than the sales of computers and software. While the Internet can be used for healthy sexual expression and for meaningful relationships, such as by individuals who are isolated or disenfranchised, clearly this new technology can also give rise to signi? cant problems with both human relating and sexual activity.Some, in fact, assert that sexuality is the biggest problem with the Internet, as well as its biggest product.
This assertion does not catch most well-informed individuals unaware. Probably a majority of readers have encountered clients who are plagued with problems resulting from their online sexual behavior. It is with good reason that this entire special issue is devoted to a scholarly examination of cybersex as a clinical concern. The Internet, as a microcosm of the civilized world, is prone to the pitfalls of human behavior, including—and especially—dif? culties in the dark side of human sexuality.What perhaps is surprising is the number of women who experience problems with their online sexual and relational activity. Standards for feminine behavior limit women’s expressions of sexuality more than men’s practices, and women’s participation in Internet sex is far outside the stereotypical boundaries.
The general public, as well as many professionals, stereotypes those who participate in cybersex, and that portrait assumes the user is male. Thus, even many professionals fail to recognize women’s struggle with distressing sexual activity, especially when the vehicle is the Internet.A number of reasons explain this oversight among both laypeople and clinicians. Only recently has attention turned toward compulsive sexual behavior of any kind among any group. Obviously, knowledge is in the infancy stage about both the Internet and its impact. Yet, as people experiment with various expressions of sexuality, they take advantage of available mediums for the delivery of sexual material.
Like no other vehicle before, the Internet packs potency that is unquestionably changing not only the world, but also the sexual behavior of its inhabitants.However, professional, theoretical, investigational, and moral discourse has not caught up with the Internet’s explosion onto the cultural landscape. No one could have predicted the accelerated result of combining the inherent power of sexuality with the velocity of the Internet, and many lack a frame of reference for considering these ‘turbo-charged’ sexual interactions. Possibly an equally important reason women are not thought of as affected by problematic cybersex is that women are not presumed to engage in disturbing sexual behavior in general. Categorically, sexual acting out is largely considered a male phenomenon, much as it was ? st thought that alcoholism primarily affected men. In addition, women themselves are reluctant to expose their struggle with problematic sexual behavior.
The enormous shame that surrounds sexual dif? culties is exponentially experienced by female strugglers. Few women speak openly about their problem with online pornography or sexual chat rooms, which adds to the likelihood that females will be omitted from the discussion of cybersex consequences. In contrast to general perception, the reality is that women, indeed, participate in Internet sexual activity, often to a distressing degree.
The secrecy and anonymity afforded by the Internet allows women more opportunities for sexual activity with less risk of discovery. In a reanalysis of a 1998 survey of more than 9,000 Internet users, women constituted 14% of the entire group. However, they 386 Marnie C.
Ferreeaccounted for 21% of cybersex addicts. In other words, although women are online signi? cantly less than men (14% females as opposed to 86% males), women are overrepresented among those who progress beyond recreational use to the realm of addiction.This article examines women’s Internet sexual activity, including what women do on the Web, along with theories about why they do it, the implications of that activity, and suggestions for intervention. What women do on the web Types of Internet sexual activity Women’s cybersex activity, like men’s, includes a broad range of online behaviors. Delmonico (1997) identi? es three main categories of cybersex pastimes: pornography exchange, real-time discussions, and compact disc distribution.It seems more helpful, particularly in the context of this discussion about women’s Internet activity, to consider conduct in terms of the user’s interface with others: either solitary activity or interactive pursuits. Thus, this author offers the following classi? cations of Internet sexual behavior: Solitary activity •View and/or distribute pornography of various forms: Pictures, audio, video, or multimedia such as CD-ROM material or sex games (with or without masturbation).
•Read written material (erotica, romance or fantasy text, newsgroups). Interactive activity •Exchange e-mail. •Participate in sexual chat rooms or discussion groups. Participate in ‘virtual’ locations: live video feed with activity suggested by the viewer.
•Engage in cybersex (communicating online while masturbating). Within these two main categories, activities may take a variety of forms. Interests may target the opposite sex or same sex, animals or objects, adults or children, voluntary or coerced behavior, or painful or pleasurable interactions. In terms of both anecdotal report and clinical research, women engage in all of these activities. Females, though, exhibit a clear preference for a segment of these online behaviors, and their choices align with women’s sexual acting out patterns in general.Women are more likely to want romance and relationship as part of their sexual activities, and the ‘love’ or ‘relationship’ addict is the most typical presentation for females. This pattern translates intact to the Internet, where women strongly prefer chat rooms where they can ‘relate,’ instead of solitary activity like accessing pornography. In all four groups of Internet users (nonsexually compulsive, Women and the web 387moderately sexual compulsive, sexually compulsive, and cybersexually compulsive), a major study found women were disproportionately represented in the interactive mediums such as chat rooms, which were preferred by 70%.
Simply put, women’s online sexual behavior mirrors their of? ine behavior: Females most often favour relationally-oriented activity. This ? nding is consistent with Young’s (1997) position that social support serves as one key psychological reinforcement for computer-based interaction. In contrast, men are more interested in online solitary pursuits, usually of a visual nature like viewing pornographic material or using multimedia for sexual purposes. Even those women who desire the same goal as most male users—the casual sexual encounter—tend to couch their activity in some semblance of a relationship (however ? eting) instead of anonymous sex.
While not the majority, some women prefer solitary Internet sexual activities such as accessing pornography on the Web. In de? nitive research by Cooper et al. (1999), 10% of female cybersex addicts used the WWW instead of chat rooms, and 22.
9% of women reported recreational (non-compulsive) use of web sexual pursuits. Generally speaking, most women who choose visual material are younger females, age 18 – 34. A possible explanation is that these younger females are more accustomed to visual stimuli due to the nature of our media-oriented culture.
Although not con? rmed by valid research, anecdotal experience indicates that women who prefer visual pursuits typically access either same-sex or sadomasochistic activity, instead of heterosexual images. Clinical experience also suggests women usually take advantage of free sexual material, while men are more prone to paying for online sexual images. An alarming trend among women who connect on the Internet A key difference surfaces in the way women progress in their Internet sexual activity.An early study reports women are more likely than men to seek real-life meetings with their online sexual partners. In fact, an astounding 80% of female cybersex addicts admitted this behavior. This escalation of sexual activity clearly has enormous implications and risks. Once a woman steps of? ine, she is increasingly vulnerable to destructive interactions and their resulting consequences.
Why women may welcome Internet sexual activity A possible reason for women’s preference for relational Internet sex is found in the conceptualization of sexual compulsivity as a ‘courtship disorder. While not all women who seek sex online are sexually compulsive, the concept of courtship is still useful in providing a foundation for understanding why women disproportionately turn to the Internet as a relationship vehicle. Courtship is a process of creating and building relationships, and the Internet profoundly changes the way we relate to others. Speci? cally, the Internet limits certain aspects of the courtship process. First, it eliminates metacommunication cues such as tone, facial expression, and body language.
It allows people to control the information they share, which provides unlimited opportunity for deception.Forty-eight percent of Internet users report 388 Marnie C. Ferree misrepresenting personal facts, at least in terms of accurately stating their age. Internet communication fosters pseudo-intimacy, where people perceive they know each other well, because the anonymous environment prompts them to quickly reveal themselves beyond what they would do in a real-life relationship. On the other hand, the Internet prevents physical touch, which is essential in all relationships, not just for the purpose of sexual intercourse. Because of their lack of authenticity and genuine intimacy, online relationships are de? ient in the true commitment necessary for meaningful human bonding. In sum, the Internet short circuits most components of human courtship, such as noticing, attraction, touching, creating intimacy, and commitment.
Women, perhaps because of their relational ‘wiring,’ ? nd it easy to overlook these ? aws of courtship in the compelling environment of the Internet. Cyberspace technology allows for an immediate (though arti? cial) sense of connection with another person, which provides the rocket fuel for females’ participation in Internet sex.As an added boost, women can eliminate the inconvenience or risks associated with face-to-face interaction. Further, a cyber-environment bypasses the relationship hurdle of physical attractiveness, because users may falsely describe themselves, doctor their electronic images at will, or even substitute someone else’s picture altogether. The Internet also allows a woman to be in total control of her sexual activity and relationships.
Without the element of physical dominance, the playing ? eld is level online and women possess equal clout, which they lack in most real-world stadiums.This power component is a huge draw for women, who often stage a power struggle through use of their sexuality. The Internet provides the perfect arena for females to exert their power, both sexually and relationally. The web is also a draw for psychologically or emotionally unhealthy women who gravitate to the fantasy world of the Internet. Females who are unsure of themselves, needy, insecure about their physical attractiveness, lacking in communication or relationship skills, or looking for another person to make them feel whole can compensate for their de? iencies in the Internet environment of illusion. This medium offers the perfect breeding ground for fantasy-based interactions, which in turn, feeds the potential of ‘romance’ addiction to which women are particularly susceptible. The web transforms fantasy sexual activity and relationships into reality—at least virtual reality. The Internet, however, impacts human relations in even a more basic way.
The very nature of computer interaction alters how people communicate. E-mail correspondence and even conversation via instant messages or in a chat room forces users to take turns responding.Each person has time to formulate thoughts and share them effectively, which may not be the case in real life. Those who interrupt or dominate can hide these traits. Because of the sequential nature of Internet communication, people are forced into an arti? cial theater of interaction, where users present better than they possibly are. What you see is not always what you get. However, even if a woman is disappointed by an Internet partner, other possibilities are only a click away.
The hope for the perfect romantic connection lures women around the next cyber corner.Implications of women’s cyber activity Is women’s Internet sexual activity merely another outlet for erotic expression or does it constitute something more problematic? The answer is as individual as women themselves. Some women, like some men, seek sex on the web recreationally without unfavorable results. Other women, again like other men, become caught in the web of online sexual pursuits. Perhaps the best way to discuss the implications of women’s cybersex is to compare this activity to characteristics of healthy sexuality. Manley (1995) suggests a ? e component model of sexual health, which involves the following dimensions: behavioral, physical, personal, relational, and spiritual.
Behavioral dimension The behavioral element of healthy sexuality is actually the absence of problematic sexual behavior such as compulsivity. As earlier established, women who use the Internet for sexual purposes are not necessarily sexually addicted. However, similar to how marijuana is often a gateway to harder drugs, even recreational use of Internet sex exposes a woman to the possibility of progressing into addiction.For some people, web connections prompt almost instant addiction, much like the highly addictive nature of cocaine. The anonymity of online behavior has a disinhibiting and normalizing effect. For some women, the result is positive as they explore aspects of sexuality and interaction that they would never dare investigate in real life.
Cybersex veers away from healthy sexuality when it interferes with normal responsibilities, causes distress, or becomes out of control. A number of self-score questionnaires are available to help a woman judge whether her online activities are causing her problems.Physical dimension The physical dimension of healthy sexuality covers three main areas. The ? rst is the mechanics of sexual functioning, such as freedom from disorders like erectile dysfunction, or in a woman’s case, dyspareunia or orgasmic inhibition. Women whose primary sexual activity is on the Internet may ? nd they experience sexual dif? culties in real-world encounters. Self-stimulating to orgasm is quite different from achieving orgasm with a physical partner. The clandestine and solitary nature of sex on the web does not foster the freedom necessary for healthy interaction with a real life partner.Second, the physical dimension deals with body image.
Women who use web pornography decline in their positive image of themselves as physical and sexual beings. The fantasy world of pornographic material cannot be matched by typical women marred by normal physical ? aws. In this contest, a woman will always lose.
Females who use pornography themselves, as well as women whose partners use pornography, suffer from comparing their bodies to online images. Healthy self-care is the third element of the physical dimension.Healthy sexuality presupposes some level of general ‘health,’ yet as their behaviors increase, cybersex 390 Marnie C. Ferreeaddicts have reduced time for healthy self-care.
Sleep deprivation is a signi? cant consequence, as women surf the web long into the night after household members are asleep. Research is clear that heavy Internet users spend excessive time on the computer to the exclusion of other activities. Forty percent of women ranked as cybersex compulsives spent at least 11 – 20 hours engaging in cybersex.Thirty percent of female cybersex compulsives spent 31 – 40 hours online, which is the near equivalent of a full-time job. It is extremely unlikely that these excessive Internet users ? nd time for healthy exercise, nutritious eating, or even simple self-care such as grooming. Personal dimension This aspect of healthy sexuality refers to an individual’s trauma history. In descriptive data from a clinical population of cybersex abusers, 76. 2% of females presented a history of sexual abuse, and 52.
4% bore a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder.The same authors contend female cybersex abusers may be vulnerable to trauma reenactment as they explore sexual behavior on the web, particularly in the case of sadomasochistic practices. More basically, the excessive use or abuse of online sexual pursuits is, in and of itself, often a source of trauma (distress) in a woman’s life.
Individuals with unresolved trauma are less likely to enjoy healthy sexuality. Relational dimension Healthy sexuality is more about relationship—i. e. , intimacy—than it is about body parts.As detailed earlier, Internet sexual activity involves only pseudo-intimacy, not genuine relationship. In fact, sex on the web adversely affects real-life sexual relationships. According to Schneider (2000), 68% of couples reported one or both partners had lost interest in relational sex.
Further, partners felt that cyber affairs were as emotionally devastating and harmful to the relationship as live or of? ine affairs. In addition, children suffered because of their exposure to Internet pornography with its objecti? cation of women and men, as well as from the neglect of an online parent.Cybersex addiction was a major factor in the breakup of 22.
3% of couples in the survey. Spiritual dimension The ? nal component of healthy sexuality is the spiritual one. This aspect recognizes that human sexual behavior has signi? cance beyond the physical interaction involved. Our sexuality is closely akin to our spirituality—our experience of being intimately aware of ourselves ? rst, and then intimately connected with another. In a metaphorical sense, the sexual drive to unite with someone can be seen as a desire to be united with the Divine.Ultimately, then, our spiritual tenets permeate our sexual experiences. In the absence of cultural mores to guide choices about online sexual behavior, women must turn to their own value systems .
They must Women and the web 391determine a de? nition of sex and what it means in their lives. (For example, is an online relationship really an affair? ) Women must decide if Internet sexual expression is a recreational activity or something more signi? cant. They must choose whether to engage in solitary sex behavior or open themselves to interactive manifestations.Unlike any previous medium, the Internet is a new frontier for women to navigate these deeply spiritual concerns. Considerations for clinicians Women and their use of web-based sexual pursuits require special consideration on the part of clinicians.
Many therapists must ? rst confront their own bias about women’s sexual activity in order to recognize this issue in the ? rst place. In most cases, professionals must inquire speci? cally about female clients’ Internet sexual behavior, because their shame prevents many women from disclosing it.In a positive vein, though, female cybersex addicts may seek treatment earlier than males, perhaps precisely due to their accelerated shame. Establishing a trusting therapeutic relationship is unusually vital when working with shame-based female cybersex users.
Women also gain enormous bene? ts from being connected with other women who are confronting their online problematic behavior. With the appropriate releases of information, clinicians should arrange support among women in their practice who struggle with the shadow side of the net.Therapists must understand the relational nature of most women’s cyber activity, and ask the right questions to identify problems in this area.
If a woman reports she does not access online pornography, the professional must not assume her Internet use is problem free. Further probing is important. Similarly, many screening tests for problematic Internet sexual activity may not identify female cybersex abusers, because many questions focus on solitary behaviors (like viewing pornography) or consequences (like ? nancial problems) not applicable to the majority of women.Effective clinicians will be savvy diagnosticians who are alert for co-morbid conditions in female cybersex users, such as affective disorders, PTSD, or other psychiatric and somatic symptoms. Female cybersex addicts will often present with partner relational disorders, when the underlying cause is hidden Internet activity. Therapists face the challenge of helping women who are caught in the web without the bene? t of much clinical literature to guide them. To this author’s knowledge, this article is one of the ? rst to speci? cally address women’s experience on the web.
The lack of material tailored to women’s cybersex activity increases their feelings of shame and isolation. Professionals must be creative in adapting existing information and assuring women they are not alone in their experience. Discussion This exploration of women’s use of the Internet for sexual purposes is not intended to be a criticism of this new wonder of technology. The information superhighway is not a black and white road that leads either to Goodville or Badtowne. Human sexual activity, 392 Marnie C.
Ferreeitself, is potentially both life af? ming and life destructive. The Internet merely provides a new, accelerated vehicle for travelling an age-old road. Clearly, however, this new carriage has enormously greater power, which is just as likely to crash Cinderella as it is to carry her safely to her ball. This article has intentionally focused on these potential crash factors as a way of raising therapists’ awareness that women, also, are along on the Internet ride, and these female drivers may be especially prone to careering out of control.
Predictors for real life infidelity include cybersex, sextingIf your spouse has been “sexting” or maintaining a relationship with someone else online, is that person just looking for an Internet ego-boost, or on the hunt for a real life affair? The answer appears to be the latter, according to a paper on infidelity and cyberspace published in the journal Sexuality ; Culture. Authored by University of Nebraska at Kearny professor Diane Kholos Wysocki and Washburn University associate professor Cheryl Childers, the paper examines the behaviors of those who frequent an online dating site dedicated to extra-marital affairs.The authors find that, although many people do seem to enjoy maintaining online sexual relationships with those who are not their partners, most participants’ main goal is indeed to hook up in real life. The researchers posted a survey at AshleyMadison, a site dedicated to helping individuals hook up outside of their marriages.
The goal was to discover what role the Internet plays when it comes to finding sex partners, and how common activities like “sexting” are. The researchers defined sexting as sending sexually explicit texts or e-mails to another adult in order to increase the likelihood of a sexual relationship, either online or offline. This could include text or photos, or both. ) Of the 5,187 adults who answered the survey, women were more likely than men to engage in the researchers’ definition of “sexting” with people outside their marriage—almost 83 percent compared to almost 67 percent—with the female 25-29 age group having the highest incidence of sexting. After age 30, women seem to slow down on the sexting.
) And, among those groups, women were 1. 3 times more likely to send nude photos of themselves than men. But does all this sexting mean that people are actually cheating? More than two-thirds of respondents said they had “cheated” with someone solely online, while three quarters confirmed that they successfully cheated in real life as a result. There appeared to be no gender differences when it came to real-life cheating rates, though the researchers found some age discrepancies in both genders. Unlike sending nude photos through email or on cell phone, cheating does not decrease by age. In fact, cheating in real-life appears to generally increase with age, especially for males,” reads the paper.
“Cheating in real-life also increases for females, but only through the 30s, then begins to decrease a bit. ” In a bit of a surprise, only 13 percent reported a negative impact on their primary relationships thanks to their infidelity, though 25 percent said they weren’t sure of the impact.For both men and women, however, the researchers note that the best predictors for developing an extramarital relationship was engaging in cybersex, which often followed on from sexting. For women, engaging in cybersex tripled their odds of straying online and doubled their odds of cheating offline, while for men, having cybersex quintupled the odds of developing an online extramarital relationship and slightly less than doubled the odds for cheating offline.
Generally speaking, exchanging sexually explicit chat and photos with another person online was a major indicator that the person in question was about to or planned to cheat. While social networking sites are increasingly being used for social contact, people continue to be more interested in real-life partners, rather than online partners,” the researchers said in a statement. “It seems that, at some point in a relationship, we need the physical, face-to-face contact. Part of the reason for this may be that, ultimately, humans are social creatures.
” So if you happen to find your partner sending Anthony Weiner-esque photos to an online “friend,” it sounds as if there’s some likelihood that your partner is preparing to go beyond mere flirtatious texts.To be fair, however, the paper does note that the survey respondents were largely self-selected and were not random because of the nature of the dating site in question. Although 33 percent of males in the survey and 40 percent of females were unmarried, it’s not unreasonable to expect that the majority of those who use Ashley Madison are already looking to have an affair, and are therefore more likely to already be in the cheating mindset. The Thrills and Perils of Cybersex: Fantasy or Obsession? It all starts with pornography that becomes interactive.Advancements of technology transformed our society into an accessible port of interests, whims and grievances. The World Wide Web, among other forms, generates a kind of obsession that transcends distance, culture, physical availability and beliefs. For most CyberSex (CS) enthusiasts, the Internet sets a new avenue for sex. It gives an interactive pleasure among men and women who either find it a cure for world-weariness or just being sexually ravenous.
One can be playful, adventurous and pretentious when one engages in cybersex.Yet it could also be destructive. Online sexual affairs can often lead to addiction that often deteriorates a person’s priorities. Men tend to neglect their marital obligations since having this wanton pastime could be foreseen just as such. A man will never be charged with concubinage or adultery since there is no physical intimacy involved. Although more often than not, men usually engage in cybersex when their wives are not around. Since cybersex is considered to be a “safe” way to have extramarital affairs, this diversion still confirms their fooling around.
In other concerns, this preoccupation leads to SEB (Sex Eyeball) where one gets to meet the person he chats with (whether they had CS or not) and decides to do each other. CS and SEBs greatly affect a person’s self-esteem and put a greater risk for sexually transmitted diseases. Young Filipinos of today are already hooked with the Internet, much more with its many aggressions, one of which is cybersex.
Although there are no disturbing statistical study done to scrutinize online sexual activities, it is very apparent that pornography and prostitution, be it actual or interactive, are prevailing in the Philippines.A survey done by the AC Nielsen Philippines last year only described the country’s Internet population as “urban, young and sophisticated. ”(Manila Times) Chatting, e-mailing and surfing are prevalent among the younger group. Of the total estimated 1. 5 million Filipinos that use the Internet, half of which are in Metro Manila, AC Nielsen noted that 45 percent are aged 12-19 years old; 36 percent are under the age bracket of 20-29; 30-39 years old comprise 12 percent while the age bracket of 40-60 represents 8 percent. For most of the people who engaged in cybersex, they perceived it as harmless.
Each of them could play a role, either a shy first-timer, an aggressive sex-pert, a sadist, a masochist, a dominatrix etc. People want to satisfy a temporary rush of excitement within the anonymous realm of computer technology. However, there are always loopholes to any kind of endeavor as there are partypoopers. If you think that people who secretly engage in cybersex could not be traced, you’re wrong. There are actually downloadable programs in the Internet where one can have a copy of all the users of a chat room and automatically detect their geographic location through their IP (Internet Provider) addresses.The thing is, if you lie about it, you’re safe. These are just some of the dangers one could encounter when engaging too much dealing with strangers online.
As much as you can fake (ironically, cyber means replicated) your orgasmic experiences, you can disguise and deceive people with your lies. Where else can a fat, balding, cigar-smoking 60 year-old man tell everyone that he is “Melanie”, a statuesque showgirl who can immediately be your slave if you ask her to? Online romance is a game of deceit and exaggeration. Fading flowers can bloom, mahinhin girls can be wild and naughty and worst of all, men can be women.
Young or old, rich or poor, it really doesn’t matter. It is how you project yourself online. It would be a plus-factor if you can write poetically, so to speak.
A guy whose nick was “the_vocalist” in IRC (Internet Relay Chat), a 23-year old creative writing student at UP Diliman admitted that although he is not a cybersex addict, he usually engages in CS. “Trips lang,” he replied when asked how he was introduced to CS. He actually prefers SEBs because he could get to know his partner better that way. It would always start however with friendly online conversations. If she’s nice and isn’t too picky with guys, then I ask her out.
” Though he was thrilled with all the interactive stimulation he gets in CS, he still deems it as disappointing. “Di lang makontrol ang libog. And it is an assisted masturbation. Iwas sa complications tsaka baka mainlab,” he said laughingly. There are two popular chat rooms often visited by Filipinos and other people around the world where they get to acquaint themselves with friends and strangers alike: IRC and YM (Yahoo Messenger). The former was simpler because there were no visual aids except maybe describing yourself to the person you’re talking to.Unlike in YM, there were voice chat and Web cam services. You get to talk to the person like that in a telephone and could see each other through a built-in video camera.
In the regional chat rooms, you can access chatroom Philippines and will find over 100 chat rooms, 51 of which were named explicitly sexual. Thus, people who stay in these chat rooms were more often than not, performing sexual activities with each other. In IRC, you can access chat rooms by typing channels (usually prefixed with #) and talk to people whom you have the same interests with.With popular attraction to cybersex, there are channels which cater to horny individuals such as #tops, #hook-ups, #kantutan, #cybersex, #pinoysex, #seb, #libog among many others. These names already give you a clue of the services you can get. Typically, people would ask other people who are interested with the game in the main window of the chatroom.
If a person agrees, they would then proceed to a private chat room once you give a private message from that person. There are times when cybersex is done by more than two people (orgies) or by two people of the same sex (ex: #bi-manila).Cybersex dependency originates in a person’s tendency to sexual fantasies. Thus, the contentment of a person in his satisfaction to his sexual urges depreciates because one way or another, you would still feel incomplete. “Marvin”(not his real name), a 24 year-old IT programs consultant, declined to give what used to be his chat nick for his own “peace of mind”.
He was then a cybersex addict and would often chat just to have sex with someone online. “Sometimes I have cybersex even when other people are around. I guess it was like that because back then I neither had a girlfriend or a sex life and my social life sucked.I guess it’s some sort of coping mechanism. ” He was currently working in a multinational bank and is getting married soon.
It was strange for him how he really got involved with cybersex. “I don’t really know. I believe I came across some horny girl, an American if I recall correctly, asking me to describe myself.
Apparently she digs tall Asians, and then she asked me if I wanted to have cybersex. I agreed. I guess reading pornographic literature (Xerex, the works) kinda contributed to it because I enjoyed it and she said she enjoys it. He describes himself as somehow “rehabilitated” and felt that his indulgence in this kind of sexual activity remained to him as one guilty pleasure he had outgrown with. He felt no shame considering he did that when he was uncommitted. Marvin also established a sexual relationship with someone he met online, though it didn’t work out.
He had a friend whom he had cybersex with but both of them agreed it was all just a fantasy and that they should just forget about it. For Marvin, cybersex was thrilling in a way because, “It’s interactive.I guess the feeling that someone is out there masturbating over your words thrilled me, as well as the responses to you.
All of that without the hassle of having to meet up, and the sheer fact that you can’t be rejected (at least not in your face),”he said. “It usually starts with us asking the usual stuff. ASLs (Age, Sex, Location), how are yous, whatever. My style is that I try to talk to the girl normally, then slowly steer the topic to sex. The more that she gets the impression that I’m smart or what, the better. It’s true that the best way to seduce a girl is through her mind. “The usual technique I apply after that is asking her if her back aches. That’s usually true, especially if you’ve been chatting a long time and you’re sure she never left her seat.
I then describe to her how I would massage her back and her arms. That would induce, if not increase, arousal. And then I ask whether she’s horny or not. If she says yes, then I start describing kissing, and then foreplay, and finally the act. ” But in all other cases, disappointment always gets in the way. “I learned that even in cybersex, girls want the attention and being taken care of.They appreciate it a lot if you do foreplay.
They appreciate it even more if, after saying both of you are done, you cap the “act” by saying that you’d hug her or cuddle her. That actually increases the chance of her wanting to have cybersex with you again. And that might, to a certain extent, apply to real life as well. ” Though people find it as a pastime or some guilty pleasure you can easily disregard and forget, there are other cases where one actually changes because of too much exposure on virtual sexual fantasy. At the U.
P. College of Engineering a male student has become infamous among his batch mates.They say he has become a walking zombie, often staying up late at night chatting, most of the time in Internet sex rooms. His foray sometimes lasts for 12 hours. He often goes to school spaced out. He has become so oblivious to grooming that he has neglected to bathe. His tangled hair reeks of a pungent smell down to his body.
He flunked his exams and failed to graduate. If these activities tend to affect the lifestyle of these people, then a psychological assessment would determine that one is suffering from cybersex addiction- a phenomenon extensively studied abroad but remains unexplored in the Philippines.Joseph H. Puyat, a professor of psychology at the University of the Philippines, said that such addiction could be compared to other types of addiction such as gambling, substance or sexual abuse in its corporeal sense. “Someone is addicted to something when he or she is no longer under control of his or her behavior. If it is an activity, the activity is already controlling that person. It becomes one’s obsession,” he adds.
Puyat says that there are four signs of cybersex addiction: anxiety or personal distress, maladaptability, statistical frequency and deviance from social norms.An addict feels anxiety and/or personal distress when he cannot engage in cybersex. “Maladaptive” behaviors manifest themselves when cybersex hobbles a person from performing his or her regular routine or from being productive in other aspects of his or her life. Statistical frequency is measured, albeit subjectively, by the level of engagement of a population to an activity. Deviance from social norms happens when a person’s lifestyle runs counter to the values of his community so that it looks perverse in the social mirror.
As Marvin had put out, he considered it as something he has outgrown with.For most people, it just takes their time off pressure and stress. Cybersex might seem out of harm’s way for some people but the negative consequences of it should not be taken for granted. There are circumstances when it lures you and attracts you that you find it hard to resist. But once you get there, you should know how to set control of yourself. Too much of something is bad enough. Disguises, deceit, intellectual and sexual manipulation and obsession are present in virtual and real life. How many Marvins must we have to fully appreciate the beauty of the real thing?Are people already satisfied to their own world of make-believe? Does sexual obsession reach the premier summit of utmost desperation? Comments of Different People George (Manila, Philippines) “sabihin po natin masama at hindi maganda ang pagkakaroon ng cyber sex dito sa bansa.
Bakit di muna harapin ng ating pamahalaan ang kahirapan ng sambayan. Di po ba nila alam ang cyber sex ay isa sa mga tinatawag na silent investor. At isa pa, mga bakla na nagtatrabaho sa cyber sex bibigyan ba ng pamahalaan ng magandang kinabukasan ang mga ito? Di Po ba nilalait nila ang mga bakla at walang pinag aralan.SINO PO BA ANG SUSUPORTA SA MGA TAONG NAGTRATRABAHO SA CYBER SEX? PAMAHALAAN PO BA? LIBO_LIBONG tao ang nagtratrabaho sa cyber sex at karamihan mga bakla. Ano ang gagawin nyo sa kanila.
HUMILATION BA O DISCRIMINATION? KUNG SINO MAN ANG NAGTRATRABAHO SA CYBER SEX AY KAGUSTUHAN NILA AT WALANG PUMIPILIT. ” Cathy (Manila, Philippines) “Yes cyber sex is not good but it helps alot of people. Cant you see it. CYBER SEX HELP A LOT OF GAYS.
” Brad (Brisbane, Australia) “Arrested for what? For helping their families make an income? What job opportunities is Philippines Government giving them?The fact is that in Pampanga, prostitution is everywhere… but what do the authorities do about it? Nothing! These cyber sex workers are in a safe environment, not exposing themselves to the risk of disease as the prostitutes do, and making an income that they would not otherwise have. The media loves to portray the officials are “saving” these girls.
Saving them from what? From making enough money so they can go to school and further their education? There are many murderes, rapists, robbers out there so perhaps the authorities should focus their efforts on catching a REAL criminal! ” Melanie (Canberra, Australia) Sick to the bone, I am, a webcam worker my self and i fortunately work out of a safe country US What do they mean save them, they destroy them in a country like philippines were the unemployment rate is one of the highest in the world and the standard of living is one of the lowest. As I work in the industry and chat to these girls they tell me that they earn up to 15 times the standard wage in phils which is as low as 1500 pesos per month 30 usd per month and they are very satisfied and they really can make a difference to the hopeless situation their families and themselves are in.Shame Shame Shame How dare you media people do waste that tape and manipulate and hide these facts Media please note There are much graver stories coming out of that country such as major government corruption and you hide the real problem in that country and those people that drive that country to anarchy and maybe revolution sooner than later. Media in phils is not honest what does the country have. You better get the truth out there and really tell it like it ispeople dying and thrown out of hospitals beause they can’t afford a simple appendix operation. you know the rest, and I rest my case.Shame Shame Shame” LanXer (Paranaque, Philippines) “wow.
.. that was a big shame from the government.
. if they only love our country, all this things will not be happen…
they just want power and money, they don’t even care for the people and our country.. big shame to them…..
. ” Negrense (Chelmsford, UK) “The govt we are speaking about isn’t only that of the present time but of the past. Made out of greedy corrupt majority ,right from the simplist unit of government the Barangay level and going up,manned by people with hidden agendas of self preservation and augmentations of lifestyles .It must be in the blood and culture of the corrupts.
Can anyone bame of the ills. The majority of filipinos put them in office and themselves suffer the consequences of their ignorance and short sightedness . Cyber sex is sad but true reality ,either outsourced from people out of poverty or simply from justified greed. It’s not only happening in the Philippines but even in 1st world countries ,that some will go for easy money and will engage in any lewd acts over camera in exchange for money. There’s a thin line divide between the actual prostitution and cyber sex.All these also accounts for some reasons of moral degradation and alienation from the christian faith,where all perceive important is the outside appearance,powered by self-pride ,selfishness and greed. Isn’t this a sign of the times wherever this is happening ,in the philippines or in the outside,that the moral fiber of overall societies in this planet is crambling down . ” Bianca (Roxas, Philippines) “Una sa lahat cybersex is not totally bad,people that work in cybersex have a reason of course money big money in there and that is one thing our government cannot provide a good salary even to the lowest profile person.
Grabe sobrang hirap talaga walang masama mag trabaho in front of camera at least no one is making love in you in real that is big advantage than those working in the bars where they can get sickness or get pregnant,so please to anybody that understand stop saying we save girls that works in cybersex,If you people face the truth and wants to save gilrs that is in prostitution go in the bars karaoke or whatever as long there is direct meat selling.Leave the cyber alone or baka naman kaya galit kayo kase it is not legal bussines,why not make a law on that so the owners can pay tax and there is no worry of raid coz’ you know there is some people that make money undertable so it is like paying tax too. ” Butterfly8305 (Manila, Philippines) “Bianca is right, why are you guys in government can’t make possible cybersex as legal?? This is better job compare to working in bars, sana naman maiintindihan ng local government ang mga taong involve sa cybersex.
.. ” Sumisilangko (Yorktown Heights, NY) negrense wrote: The govt we are speaking about isn’t only that of the present time but of the past. Made out of greedy corrupt majority ,right from the simplist unit of government the Barangay level and going up,manned by people with hidden agendas of self preservation and augmentations of lifestyles .
It must be in the blood and culture of the corrupts……
.. Hi, Negense, I am with you on this issue. When the mind is inert, the body works, and that’s why eventually, they exists only to eat… like the animals.
Instead of using their intelligence kung paano naman kikita ng ayon sa malinis na pamamaraan, ng hindi mawawala ang kanilang sariling paninindigan at galang sa kanilang mga pagkatao they readily chose the easy way. It is a sign of weakness when one allows himself to be used in such a degrading manner. We cannot blame the dogs for being lewds on the street.
.. wala yang mga isip at kaluluwa. Pero tayo meron. Ano na..
. Sa ibang bansa, natutong mag organic gardening ang mga tao. Maski hindi sila mga farmers, yung mga sulok-sulok ng kanilang mga yards at empty lots tinatamnan nila ng mga gulay para makatulong sa kanilang mga gastos.Yung iba naman gumagawa ng mga manika, mga wreaths, crafts at ibinebenta nila sa mga flea and craft markets..
. malaking underground business ito, lalu na yung mga nakatali sa bahay, at tuloy, pinanggagalingan ng kanilang kasayahan dahil nag-oorganized sila at nagiging magkakaibigan sila. Yung iba naman pinapasok yung mga contest ng mga pagluluto at kung manalo sila inilalagay sa mga magazine ang kanilang mga luto at recepi at binibili ng mga food manufacturers for the rights to mass produce them. Nag-iisip ang marami sa mga bansang maalsa, maimbento ang mga tao.Walang linggong walang inaanunsiyong bagong gadyet na nabibili lamang from television.
Ang mga ito ay imbento ng mga tao at binibili ang rights from them to market them, but siyempre meron silang hati sa kita. Pero yung nagpapakagumon sa kalaswaan, kakitiran ng isip, mga welfare families sila, tumatanggap ng pera sa gobyerno, ang mga anak, sa mga eskwelahang pinuputaktak ng mga drug addicts at mga gangsters pumapasok dangkasi, ayaw nilang magtrabaho para hindi sila duon nakatira. At karamihan ng mga ginagaya ng mga artista natin ay parang ang mga bata dito na mga mababa ang bot ng mga isip, buntis dito, buntis doon at ang mga nakakabuntis, nagdrudrug.
That is true in the cities. But in the suburbs at sa mga rural areas na may matataas na akala sa kanilang mga pagkatao ang namamayan, ang mga mahihirap ang siyang bastion ng good and clean living. Sa kanila nagmumula ang mga kabataang americano na pumapasok sa army at lumalaban sa giyera dangkasi they are raised with pride for being right… as patriotic americans.
Karamihan sa mga pumapasok na sundalo sa USA army ay mga nakatapos lang ng highschool, but that did not let them lose the moral values.Pag ang mga tao, kinalimutan ang kagandahan ng asal at ng pagiging tao, ang kalalabasan ay magpaparang mga tao sa mga bayang walang pagkaunlad at karamihan ay api-apihan sa sarili nilang bayan. Magpakatalino tayo. Hindi lahat ng marinig natin sa media ang siya nating ginagaya, lalu na yung mga sining ang mga sumusulat ng kwento ay may mga sira ang ulo at may sakit. Ang mga isip parating nasa mga ari nila, paano lumaki sa mga tahanang pinamamahayan ng mga taong walang mga pinagkukunan kung paano ang pagiging tao. Ang sinasaktan ang mga sarili nilang mga anak o nagiging mga rapists at incestious.
Pirming nasa guniguni nila nilalapa nila yung kapwa nila taong mahihina. Kaya yung kwento tungkol sa Soddom at Gomorah sa Biblya, iginuho daw ng diyos ng christiano yung bayan na yan. Walang natira kungdi si Lot. Kung hindi man talagang nangyari ay isinama sa aklat ng buhay dahil nagbibigay ng isang mahalagang aral sa atin. ” OmniStaffSolutio ns (Manila, Philippines) “I have nothing against cyber sex or sa government…
I would say some na you have your point… It helps a lot of people, as a matter of fact I knew someone who owns a house morethan half a million na dahil lang sa cybersex.
Mga taong ito naman ei hindi pinipilit, they do it dahil gusto nila at alam nilang madali ang pera. Which is a lot better keysa mag nakaw dba?!! Nakakapagtataka lang, hinuhuli nila mga small time people while mga porn movies sa pinas hindi :))” Trisha (Quezon City, Philippines) “I agreEd that Cybersex is REaLLy not a crime… iTs helP ouR fllOw kbabayan To fill their needs… SOme workers are UNdergradUates And doNT eveN fiNIshed elEmntry.. so TO be able To helP theiRselves and Their faMlies they fouNd a way TO get OUt of poverty… wla clang Tntpakang tao and at the same TimeHIndi naaBuso ang body nila coz Cybersex is not FOr reaL.. REALITY BITES that the foreiGners are ready to give all their money fOr pleasure.. di KO kinukunsiNti BUt if u review and think of it that Y poLIce and media mens cauGht some small cybersex dens. its like these people eh pUmtay at my karumal dumal n ginwa… so y dont we Just mke cYbersex lEgaL and lgyan ng tax para Nmn woRTH it sa government.. CUZ WERE SPEAKING ABOUT NOT PESO ITS DOLLARS!!! Thnks” West Hartford, CT “Bottomline: The only reason cybersex is illegal in the Philippines is because the government cannot make money from it.Salary is not taxed therefore, the Filipino government does not see one peso from them. The Bars on fields are paying taxes therefore the media and government can overlook what is actually happening there. It’s not about faith or ethics, its not about morality that the media and gov’t claim it to be, its 100% about money! ” Concern Citizens (Quezon, Philippines) “alam nyo cyber sex masama o hindi ay wag nyong gawing kc maraming kano or ano man tao na mahihiligan ang sex pag nagkataon gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan para makapagsex lang. gayon kung walang makita yan. ay magaabang abang tpos dyan na nagsisimula ang rape o ang pagsasamantala sa isang babae or bakla.. ganyan ang pagkakaalam ko sa mga nakita ko nang mga pangyayari. lalo na d2 sa ating bansa.. ngayon kung may cyber sex parin na gumagala. ay naku.. wag na.. maghanap kayo ng ibang trabahong pagkakakitaan at wag kayong magloko ng ibang tao. marami pa nman ibang trabaho kahit hindi kaman nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral.. wag sa kanitong paraan nyo gawin. habang may buhay ay may pag-asang nakalaan.. salamat po! Sexy Lady (Cebu, Philippines) “for me ang cyber sex is normally for a person.! lahat nman tayo ay may sariling opinion about sex! pero hndi nman dpat lagyan ng malisya nang mtatanda dahil alam naman siguro nla kng ano ang dpat gawin! pero age limit nman cguro pagdating sa sex. dahil ako mahilig ako sa sex lalong lalo na pagmahal ko ang ka sex ko!!! i love sex very much….!!!!!! ” Criticism Cybersex is often criticized because the partners frequently have little verifiable knowledge (including gender) about each other.However, since for many the primary point of cybersex is the plausible simulation of sexual activity, this knowledge is not always desired or necessary. Privacy concerns are a difficulty with cybersex, since participants may log or record the interaction without the other’s knowledge, and possibly disclose it to others or the public. Debate continues on whether cybersex is a form of infidelity. While it does not involve physical contact, critics claim that the powerful emotions involved can cause marital stress, especially when cybersex culminates in an Internet romance.In several known cases Internet adultery became the grounds for which a couple divorced. Therapists report a growing number of patients addicted to this activity, a form of both Internet addiction and sexual addiction, with the standard problems associated with addictive behavior. PHILIPPINE SCHOOL OF BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION 1029 AURORA BLVD. , QUEZON CITY CYBERSEX SUBMITTED TO MR. JOHNLEE L. BOTOR PROFESSOR, SOCIO ANTHROPOLOGY SUBMITTED BY PAGDANGANAN, JOANNA KARINA B. SECTION T-61 11 OCTOBER 2011