In any encyclopedia ofmodern ballet, the name of the dancer Marta Graham will stand in a place ofhonor. It can be called revolutionary. Graham’s dance school and its techniquebecame the basis for modern choreography and influenced the development ofballet all over the world.
Agnes deMille (dancer and choreographer) met Mart Graham after her success of musicalshow ‘Oklahoma’. She thought that this work was average as compare to herprevious work, but she got success from the average work. Agnes de Mille talked to Graham about this andshe said-“There is vitality, a life force, energy, aquickening that is translated through you into action, and because there isonly one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it,it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The worldwill not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it isnor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions.
Itis your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channelopen.”She taught her that it’s not your job tojudge your work; your job is to create and share. Comparing ourselves with other people is ourhabit. It was instilled in us from childhood. Bothin the kindergarten and in the school, teachers and teachers set the example ofthe best boys and girls. Parents expected us to be no worse than the bestin the group, school, and college.
We were always compared with ourneighbors, with relatives, close friends.Comparisonlinks to dependency on othersWhen we begin to compare ourselves, what we compare becomesdependent on how we evaluate and perceive others around us. If inthe showroom the manager sells cars more than all others, for example 100 carsper month, he experiences an emotional rise and pride in himself. In thesalon a newcomer is set to work, which starts selling 110 cars amonth.
And although the first manager sells the same 100 machines a month,as before, he blames himself for not being able to do anything in this life,his self-esteem falls, and he begins to envy the newcomer. Comparison onlycreates a false sense of importance, and it is better to avoid it.Beyourself!The first thingyou need to do to stop comparing yourself to others is to love yourself as youare. You may think that you are imperfect, but that’s what makes us human. Fallingin love with yourself, you will love your life.
You will find inner peace andtranquility, accepting yourself with all your shortcomings.Being yourselfdoes not mean living in a shell without sticking out into the outside world,and being unable to improve your life. To be yourself is to set achievablegoals for yourself and go to them.