INTRODUCTION Parentsnowadays as we see are living in Old Age Homes. Their children when theirparents reach a certain age they just leave them alone or at old age homes. Whyis it so just because they have got old and may become cranky sometimes, youfeel like they are annoying you or disturbing your privacy. Many childrennowadays have such thinking towards their parents.
Even Allahhas given a higher place to parents in the Holy Quran. It is liable on us (thechildren) that when our parents get old it’s our responsibility to take care ofthem no matter in what circumstances you are. The Quransays:”Allah saysthat you should worship no one other than him. And you be faithful to yourparents if they are of old age and cannot take care of themselves by their ownits your responsibility to do so”Even it ismentioned in the Bible as well:When we takecare of our parents and respect them we please no one but God. Bible says: ifthere is a widow its responsibility of the church to cater her and look afterher needs but if she has children or maybe grandchildren it’s their priorresponsibility to repay their parents by taking great care of them.
This issomething god feels happy about and appreciates the human. But those people whodon’t even take care of their own relatives who are old and cannot look afterthemselves they are worse than the unbelievers.Pakistan likenumerous other creating nations in the world is seeing the quick maturing ofits populace. Urbanization, modernization and globalization have promptedchange in the financial structure, the disintegration of societal esteems,debilitating of social esteems, and social foundations such as the jointfamily.
In this changing monetary furthermore, social milieu, the more youthfulage is scanning for new characters including monetary freedom and reclassifiedsocial parts inside, and additionally outside, the family. The evolving monetarystructure has decreased the reliance of provincial families ashore which hasgiven quality to bonds between ages.What is an Old Age Home? A place where the parents speciallyold or senior citizens live because they have no one who can look after themanymore or maybe their children have thrown them out of the house. Old AgeHomes is a place where all the seniors are taken great care, looked after theirneeds and fulfilled all necessities of life. But the love and affection whichthe parents require at that age goes missing which mostly all the parents ofthat certain age require at that time. It is a sort of love which cannot begiven or a need which cannot be fulfilled by an outsider.
LITERATURE REVIEW The problem has ariseda lot in the past years as what can be the reasons why can the children nottake care of their own parents when they really need them. They didn’t leavethem, fulfilled all their children’s wishes and in the end they deserved areturn gift of living in an old age home. Parents should not be treated in sucha way instead try to listen and find solutions on both the sides as to wherethe problem mainly is and what solutions can be taken to eradicate this issue.The elderly natives needpressing consideration.
They needn’t bother with our pity, however thecomprehension love and care of their kindred human beings. It is our obligationto see that they don’t spend the sundown years of their life in detachment,torment furthermore,wretchedness. More seasoned people are, along these lines, in require ofindispensable help that will keep critical viewpoints of their ways of life inplace while enhancing their general personal satisfaction, the presentinvestigation was directed to thinkabout the general sentiments, social connections furthermore, individual likingsof the elderly living with families and in maturity homes.The presentexamination was embraced with the following fundamental targets:- To examinethe foundation profile of elderly remaining at maturity homes and inside thefamily. To think about nature of elderly ladies living in seniority homes andinside the family. To look into the General sentiments, Social connections,Individual likings and lastly to evaluate the state of mind of elderly. Thesedays, the part of families if there should be an occurrence of more establishedindividual has declined because of basic changes which have occurred in theIndian culture and the attending breaking down of the joint family framework,which brings about the dismissal or disregard of the matured. Life infoundations require not be terrible however it generally is.
This remainsconstant all over on the planet. Individuals go to foundations for the mostpart since they have no relatives to look after them. In this manner, thepeople who see elective settlement because of disconnection or depression, migrationof assemble style settlement may build their social contact and positivelyaffect their prosperity. Methodology The present examinationdepends on a urban example of 60 people matured 60 years and over.
Out ofthese, 30 were systematized and 30 were from family set-up. The informationwere gathered from Jammu city. Jammu is spread over a territory of 222236 sq.kms also has an aggregate populace of 10143700 (Census 2001) with educationrate of 55.52 percent.
The information was gathered utilizing a uniquelycomposed Interview timetable and perception strategy through a house-to-house reviewfor those dwelling in the family. The information on standardized matured wasgathered from, “Home for the Aged”, Ambphalla, Jammu. A large portionof the people incorporated into the present think about were sixty years old orabove and nonworking. The non– standardized elderly people given data abouttheir age, while the age of the standardized people was out from seniority homerecords. The information was gathered utilizing an exceptionally outlinedmeeting timetable and perception system through a house-to-house overview forthose living in the family. Before conclusive information gathering, the talk planwas tried on a little subsample what’s more, consequently concluded, uponfruitful testing and minor modifications. The meet plan was separated into foursegments.
The primary segment included inquiries with respect to general data ofthe respondents. The second area included inquiries relating to generalsentiments of maturity individuals to joy, forlornness, sadness, security,instability, extraordinary temperaments. The third area included inquiries as torelations of old individuals with companions, relatives and relatives and thefourth segment included inquiries in regards to the individual interests andpastimes of maturity individuals. The information were gathered in the longstretches of April what’s more, May 2008.The data, consequently, acquired wasexamined by the destinations of the consider, coded and organized.
The outcomeshave been displayed as numbers and rates.FINDINGS & ANALYSIS The issues of thematured change from society to society and have many measurements in ournation. Seniority had never been an issue for India where an esteem based jointfamily framework is expected to win. Indian culture is naturally deferentialand steady of senior citizens. Maturing as a characteristic wonder has from thestart locked in the consideration of the cultivated world.
Arrangement for thematured in the general public has turned out to be one of the constitutivesubjects of our cutting edge welfare state. However the deterioration of thejoint family framework and the effect of financial change have brought intosharp concentration the impossible to miss issues which the old individuals nowlook in our nation. Quranic Verses & Its Understanding Social Relationship of the Respondents Kids are reliedupon to deal with their elderly guardians. Be that as it may, the procedures ofsocial change, for example, industrialization, urbanization, also, relocation,can have a negative effect on tend to elderly individuals. In the presentexamination, it was watched that 96.6 percent of the elderly ladies living inthe families had social help from their children and little girls in-law amidtheir disease. The impact of this wonder is apparent from the debilitating of theconventional obligation of joint family.
The elderly have been the greatest sufferersof this difference in qualities and family framework. A large number of them feelthat the state of mind of more youthful age towards them has experienced agigantic change and turn out to be less palatable. There is a typicalconviction that in seniority individuals have a tendency to end up noticeablymore slanted towards religion. To a degree, religion gives a kind of socialhelp as individual contact with other individuals at religious social affairs withwhom they could share their considerations. It is trusted that, ‘it is aroundthis social and religious investment that the life of the old spins’. It waswatched that 33.3 percent of those living in families revealed cooperation in socialand religious services.
They communicated that their association to relativesand companions was because of their inclusion in the religious capacities. Itis evident that the quantity of respondents who found the opportunity forreligious association was less in the foundation than in the familial setup.Montross et al pointed towards a positive connection amongst companionship and fruitfulmaturing. It recommends that bigger the number of close relatives and the moreincessant is the contact with companions, the higher is the score of fruitfulmaturing pointers among older folks. Individual Likings of the Respondents Lifefulfillment keeps on being a vital build in the psychosocial investigation ofmaturing. It is one of the regularly acknowledged subjective conditions ofpersonal satisfaction and is by all accounts one of the features of effectivematuring, both of which are enter ideas in maturing.
Research reports that lifefulfillment is unequivocally identified with socio-statistic furthermore, psycho-socialfactors. Individual Likings of the Respondents Life fulfillmentkeeps on being a critical build in the psychosocial investigation of maturing.It is one of the generally acknowledged subjective conditions of personalsatisfaction and is by all accounts one of the features of fruitful maturing,both of which are enter ideas in maturing. Research reports that life fulfillmentis firmly identified with socio-statistic also, psycho-social factors.
It hasbeen discovered that two socio-statistic attributes impact life fulfillment bothspecifically and furthermore in a roundabout way through psychosocial factors, forexample, movement physical movement level, fulfillment with recreationexercises, furthermore, social contacts, Perceived wellbeing, and physicaldisease. As respects the individual likings of the elderly ladies living in thefamilies and seniority foundation, it was investigated that 43.3 percent of theelderly ladies living in the families had more enthusiasm towards perusingreligious books, magazines and daily papers for hanging loose, while 33.3percent of them had enthusiasm towards viewing T.V. what’s more, the others(23.
3 percent) tuned in to music for tranquility of mind. 33 percent of theelderly ladies living in the organizations expressed that tuning in to musicloose them and overlooked their strains, stresses what’s more, stretch. Just6.6 percent were religious disapproved.
Notwithstanding, 87 percent ofstandardized elderly ladies uncovered that they worshiped at the establishmentin light of the fact that a sanctuary as of now existed inside theestablishment (Table 3). Interest in various activities Recreational exercisesLiving in the family establishment.RecreationalActivities:· Listeningmusic · Perusingbooks· Magazine· ViewingT.V · Openair Activities· Gofor shopping · LesiureTime Activities · Conversingwith others · Composingindividual dairy · RestaterecollectionsDiscussingthe relatives appeared to be a most loved breathe easy for the occupants ofboth the settings, particularly for those living in the organization. Recallingthe old upbeat recollections also, sharing these with their prisoners givessentimentality about sentiment achievement. It acts as a purge for the elderly.As few as 3.3 percent were falling back on contemplation to keep themselves casual,strain free and invigorated.
CONCLUSIONSeniority hadnever been an issue for India where an esteem based joint family framework isassumed to win. Indian culture is naturally aware and steady of older folks.Maturing characteristic wonder has from the start locked in the considerationof the socialized world. Arrangement for the matured in the general public hasturned out to be one of the constitutive topics of our cutting edge welfarestate. The issues of the matured shift from society to society and have manymeasurements in our nation. In any case, the crumbling of the joint family frameworkand the effect of monetary change have brought into sharp concentration theparticular issues which the old individuals now look in our nation.
Furthermore,in the customary sense, the obligation and commitment of the more youthful agetowards the more seasoned age is being dissolved. The more established age isgotten between the decrease in customary values on one hand and the nonattendanceof an satisfactory government managed savings framework then again therefore,thinking that its hard to modify in the family. Eventually, it could bepresumed that the general sentiments of the elderly ladies living in the familieswould be advised to position than that of the elderly ladies of the establishment.Better social relations were kept up by the family occupants since they hadstandard connection, articulations of sentiments and support from the family.
The current state of the elderly ladies living in the foundation was that theyfelt lonelier, depressive what’s more, had a lower level of fulfillment with life.In this setting , the requirement for saving our convention of a joint familyand the shared collaboration what’s more, understanding between the moreyouthful what’s more, the more established ages could be all the moresqueezing. The circumstance calls for deliberate endeavors of theadministration, non-legislative associations, religious organizations andpeople not just to see yet additionally to illuminate or if nothing else alleviatethe entire extent of issues coming about from a turning gray society with thegoal that the matured individuals can lead a stately and significant