Patience according to Ben Franklin
The measure of a person before and after life lies in their achievement. Everyone has goals to accomplish. All the activities that eventually lead to achievement of these goals are brought together by a virtue called patience. According to the Oxford dictionary, patience is the ability to accept or tolerate delays, suffering or problems, without becoming anxious or annoyed. Considering all the achievers known to society, those who have not been favored by luck or hierarchy will quote the virtue of patience. Ben Franklin understood this powerful force and thus concluded, “He that can have patience can have what he will.” Abraham Lincoln was defeated for senate three times, failed in business two times, defeated for congress twice and defeated for speaker once. He also lost when he ran for the vice presidency and suffered a nervous breakdown once. These setbacks did not deter Lincoln from becoming the president of the United States and a renowned world leader.
Patience is not an easy virtue as it entails challenges that one has to overcome. There is endless temptation to sit back and let go of one’s dreams. Though hard, patience is achievable. To achieve patience one has to identify their trigger areas. One needs to take time to identify a specific phenomenon that causes them to be patient, and then develop a defense mechanism that will deal with the impatience. Moreover, one should always believe that the situation they are going through shall pass. Similarly, there are those situations that are out of a person’s control. The best thing at that time is to let go. This will alleviate feelings of frustration and anger that characterize impatience. Third, one has to learn to keep calm. It is important to learn to take charge of one’s emotions whenever he/she is tempted to be impatient. If emotions take charge of an individual, they are highly likely to lose their patience. One can as well learn to put everything into perspective. If, for example, a person is tasked to repeat a concept to a person, they are likely to get frustrated from the repetition. Rather, one is supposed to observe the situation and realize that it would only take very little effort and time if only he/she remained calm and not get overly emotional.
Patience has benefited people in many ways and different areas of life. In marriages, for example, couples who live the longest together tend to be more patient with one another. Differences occur many times in marriages but being patient with each other, helps couples to maintain a level head, reason and come up with amicable solutions to their problems. Likewise, at the workplace and any other social institution, people do not have similar ideals. To cope with these variant ideals, one has to be patient with colleagues to maintain peaceful and united living. People can never overcome challenges in life if they are not patient. Life goals are not achievable in a few hours. They are normally spread over time. Along this time, people encounter numerous challenges, and if they are not patient, they are likely to give up and not achieve.
Patience also has medical benefits. Research has associated stress to medical conditions such as hypertension and stroke. Being patient alleviates one from being angry, stressed, paranoid or anxious. All these emotionally involving traits result often from impatience. A key trait of patience is perspective. One can choose to look at a situation as a glass half empty or half full. Health, happiness and wealth, are all benefits of patience. Franklin understood fully the power behind patience.